My husband does a lot - this is KEY!
He screwed himself by being such a great dad it made me want (and have :) more.
The picture is the 3 girls hanging out together at the table listening to music doing homework. This is one of those moments that tells my heart its ok I had 4 beautiful daughters because they will love each other unconditionally, support each other and be there for each other to gossip and grieve and celebrate when I am gone...
So back to the title..."Those Moments", they are what remind me why I had 4 kids, I NEED THOSE MOMENTS when I am in the throws of WHY THE F*CK DID I DO THIS!
I do have those and any mom that denies that she feels like that sometimes not often is a freakin' liar and lives in constant fear of what other people think.
In the morning the teenager is an angel! She gets herself up and has been doing it since 6th grade. She cares about her appearance (a good thing that comes from puberty folks) so she is motivated to shower and brush her teeth and she is old enough now to desire food in the morning to avoid the nausea feeling that comes about 10am from forgetting or refusing to eat in the morning. She is generally cheerful by nature which has always made her pleasant to wake up. SO you can see this one is not an issue just the 15 minute drive every morning at 6:45am kinda sucks but not really when I have perspective and coffee and she drives me and its a chance to catch up without her sisters interrupting!
Now to the 10 yr old - who has badgered me to "homeschool" her since she was about 6 years old is not as pleasant to wake up. She rolls over ignores me and her first words 4 out of 5 days a week are "I don't want to go to school". ARG. Then I leave to wake up the two little ones and come BACK to the 10yr old who 5 out of 5 days a week still is iint bed grumbling. INSERT THOUGHT "God why cant this kid just wake up happy she doesnt have to do anything but get dressed, I make her breakfast, I pack her lunch and her dad walks her to school what a life and she has to start out with this shit". then I reset my brain and say "come one sweetie you dont want to be late".
Then off to the toddlers room to wake them up again - at least usually they are pleasant about getting up unless the 6 yr old feels she has been wronged in the first 2 waking minutes by the 4 yr old then there is hell to pay with this one. Mind you from when this 10 yr old wakes up until she walks out the door I have to re-dreict her attention to the task at hand more than 15 times ARG. eat honey I say, then 2 minutes later EAT HONEY its getting late....then I say again 2 minutes later and the cereal isnt gone at all OK THAST IT one more bite and go get dressed...."But I am hungry mom"....tough you had your chance......go get dressed. Now when she gets to her room I think she slips into another dimension because I cannot get her to get dressed by calling up to her eveyr 5 minutes for 20 minutes for the life of me and when I get up there all steamed up she isn't dressed she is sitting in front of her mirrored closet door smiling at herself and then me. ARG she melts my heart that little.....
The 6 yr old since she was 2 yrs old has always loved a schedule, getting up and getting ready. She is a total girly girl. She loves bags, accessories, scarves, socks anything to jazz up her daily outfit which she chooses with great care every day! She does how ever come downstairs hungry but refusing to eat anything I offer. WELL I assume she is hungry I mean GEEZE she hasn't eaten since 7pm the night before thats 12 hours....she tells me "Im not really hungry I will just have GOLDFISH". Which then my awesome husband jumps in (he is usually eating cereal at the computer during this process on www.ESPN.com) and gets her some apple slices. She pretty much eats 10 goldfish and 2 apple slices (no skin) and thats it. Believe me I know what you are thinking MAKE THAT KID EAT MORE breakfast is the most important meal of the day blaa blaa blaa, its how a student starts their day of right blaa blaa blaa I KNOW THIS PEOPLE YOU JUST DONT KNOW MY KID. You cannot force feed a 6 yr old. I have offered scrambled eggs, toast, pancakes, waffles, fruit, oatmeal, lucky charms.......nothing people NOTHING. The only truly difficult thing with her is her finding the "right" jacket for the day. UNfortunately she has coveting issues and always wants to wear her sisters coats and this leads to an almost daily fit between the two (the 6 yr old and who's ever jacket she is confiscating for that morning).
Then there is the "baby". She is 4 and a half and so easy peasy unless you are giving her medicine. She does just like one would expect... she gets up when her sisters do, gets ready like them and wishes she could go to the Elementary school instead of preschool. She eats easily and dresses herself when prompted. If feeling tired she will let you dress her in any thing you like (not good when daddy has his choice I would like to add...great dad does NOT = style for little girls LMAO). She even says things like her older sisters like "I dont want to go to school" but she says it with no oomph, with no heart and happily forgets when I use basic distraction and in the car she goes.
There are so many moments when they hug me, kiss me and smile at me that makes me understand why. Those moments when they tell me about their day and are so excited about something or when we do some art work and they thank me, or they help me pick out health foods at the store and help me cook......SO MANY MOMENTS
Thats the morning. Not so bad is it? more to COME...
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