Hot Quotient

 so, i find in marriage (not just mine because i run regular testing for my e-theories) that each partner has a what i like to call their "hot quotient".  this can be summed up as their sex appeal and general good looks level divided by the other partner's. of COURSE there are the times when one's hot quotient out weighs or is above if you wish the others.  for various reasons that is ever changing.  in some relationships the hot quotient is very uneven and stays that way for the entire relationship for example the man may be much hotter than the woman and everyone knows this but no one actually talks about it because we LIKE TO PRETEND LOOKS DONT MATTER or LOOKS ARE NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT THING and the old addage "dont judge a book by its cover" and I will even venture to say "you need to meet my friend they are really NICE and FUUNY (when usually if they are hot that comes out first).

HEY I dont agree with how society makes looks NUMBER ONE but lets face it IT DOES AND THAT IS A FACT.


having said all that we are back to one is hotter than the other and on average in MOST relationships this fluctuates back and forth between the 2.  lets use me and my hot husband as an example. when he and i met our hot quotient was EQUAL we were both hot and cute and all that means is really truly and completely shallow we were equal in our physical attraction ability/lever. after our 1st daughter was born  i was even able to raise my hot qotient above his (his hair ugh and he was pale for an entire year lol). mind you this did not last long at all before he surpased me after our 2nd daughter together and he has been above me since that kid in 2004.  BUT, these days he works long hours, doesnt get much sun, lets his hair do bad things and has to wear compression socks and quess what baby! I am BACK. I work out 2-3 times a week, dye my grey hair (its all grey if any of you need that support), i work hard on my spiritual being and WHAM I am SO above him now LMAO.


its normal for the fluctuations over years at a time especially for how hard it is for us women to get back our bodies and our self after babies and child rearing and forget the time if you are a stay at home mom you are crazy the last one on the list to take care of yourself! Actually it may be harder for working moms I dont know but all I can say is YOU CAN GET IT BACK, dont worry your time is coming and if you HAVE IT RIGHT NOW enjoy the hell out of it and if you cant tell......


start watching other people watching you as a couple cause you will know when you see THAT look...we have ALL done it or seen it or both THAT LOOK "what is he/she doing with THEM"


i was on the crappy end of that look for years but i had hope and always have been a hopeful person and see it worked!


LOVE, TOLERANCE AND HOPE


and dont from now on be the person who thinks that and gives THE LOOK think about erika's story how one day she was hot then she was off for a few years and she may get it back and that the reason that guy is with her is probably cause of LOVE or she WAS HOT at one time or anohter or he CANNOT AFFORD TO DIVORCE HER.  More to come on this subject.


Quotient: In mathematics, a quotient is the result of a division. For example, when dividing 6 by 3, the quotient is 2, while 6 is called the dividend, and 3 the divisor. The quotient can also be expressed as the number of times the divisor divides into the dividend.


Hot: Physical attractiveness is the perception of the physical traits of an individual human person as aesthetically pleasing or beautiful, and can include various implications such as sexual attractiveness and physique. What is considered physically attractive is dependent on three factors: universal perceptions common to all human cultures, cultural and social aspects and individual subjective preferences. Despite universally held perceptions of beauty in both sexes, males tend to place significantly higher value on physical appearance in a partner than women do.  This can be explained by evolutionary psychology as a consequence of ancestral humans who selected partners based on secondary sexual characteristics, as well as general indicators of fitness (for example, symmetrical features) enjoying greater reproductive success as a result of higher fertility in those partners, although a male's ability to provide resources for offspring was likely signalled less by physical features.  This is because the most prominent indicator of fertility in women is youth, while the traits in a man that enhance reproductive success are proxies for his ability to accrue resources and protect. There appear to be universal standards regarding attractiveness both within and across cultures and ethnic groups.

Physical attractiveness can have a significant effect on how people are judged. In terms of employment or social opportunities, friendship, sexual behavior, and marriage.  In many cases, humans attribute positive characteristics, such as intelligence and honesty, to attractive people without consciously realizing it.  In certain instances, physical attractiveness is distinct from sexual attraction; humans may regard the young as attractive for various reasons, for example, but without sexual attraction.

Women are believed to be more generally attracted to men who are slightly taller and who have a relatively narrow waist and broad shoulders. Men may be attracted by women who are slightly shorter, have a youthful appearance and exhibit features such as a symmetrical face, full breasts, full lips, and a low waist-hip ratio.