Guilt~ I will have some for breakfast, a little more with lunch I forgot to have some at dinner I was too busy but when the day is done and the lil ones asleep please give me one more big helping reminding me how imperfect I am and how much more there is i could be doing....
Let me say that I am greatly motivated by guilt.
Back Then: I was a working mom of 2 and I am painfully aware of what that entails. It meant to me, every morning was hectic, there were never any clean socks and we could never find jackets, shoes or backpacks, we were almost ALWAYS late and I was always stressed. I never had time. I lost every paper they brought home I think and I paid late for every trip and book order there was! My time with my kids was slim and I constantly ran on a dish of guilt for breakfast lunch and dinner. I had an extra helping at night at about 11pm when everyone was asleep and I grasped the horrors of what lay in wait for me the next morning....I barely talked to my husband whom I actually liked and neither of us had any personal time because weekends were catch up time on laundry, shopping, gymnastics, baby showers and birthday parties. PS I NEVER COOKED~!
Fast forward to now: I have 4 kids at 3 different school I am currently a stay at home mom, I am still late, I loose every paper they bring home, I gave up ordering from the book orders years ago, we still cannot find any socks and I feed my kids sugary cereal cause they will eat it and eat it fast. I do not have a clean house, I still do not cook and I do NOT drive on every field trip. Already as I write this realize I forgot to pay for my 4th graders field trip tomorrow, I did not participate in several parent nights at school and did I mention my daughter has on mis matched socks. I never get to shower, I wear sweats all the time (ok really its my PJ bottoms and a matching T-shirt with stains). Pony tails are my only true friend and I love mascara it makes me look human.
We all do as much as we can and we as moms working or not, WE STILL feel guilty.
WHEN can we STOP the guilt?
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